You may find yourself in a continual cycle of first dates that never seem to go anywhere and it seems like everyone around you is finding ‘the one’ and settling down.
Maybe you end up in relationships with partners that you know are wrong for you, just to avoid feeling lonely or as if you’re missing out on the happy relationship that others seem to have.
You could already be in a relationship but are unsure of if you want to stay or go.
You may notice you and your partner have developed unhealthy relationship patterns that you can’t break.
Maybe you’re keen to seek help from a professional relationship counsellor but your partner isn’t. Or you may be wondering why you can’t commit to your partner even though they are everything you’ve ever wanted.
You may see yourself doing things that you know will push them away but your just can’t stop yourself and you’re asking “what’s wrong with me?”
Working with a therapist is different to talking to a friend. We all need the support of friends from time to time.
However, sometimes talking to friends can make you feel more alone than ever.
You may find friends aren’t able to understand you or they offer advice that doesn’t seem relevant to your particular situation. Even if friends are able to offer you the comfort you need, it may still not be enough to get you out of the dilemma you face.
A professional therapist will be able to offer you a supportive ear, but through their specialist training, they will also help you take a look at your problems in a way that can help you overcome them.
Our aim is to bring awareness to some of the underlying reasons that may be causing your relationship difficulties.
We will work with you to understand your problems so that you can make different choices in the future that may ease some of the tension you face in intimate relationships.
Many people carry beliefs, either conscious or subconscious, that can often do you more harm than good.
These can be things like:
“I can’t maintain a relationship. There must be something wrong with me.”
“I’m not smart, attractive, slim, funny, good enough for someone to want me.”
“I don’t expect to ever have a happy relationship.”
“Love isn’t possible for someone like me.”
“All the good ones are already taken.”
“I want a relationship but I’m worried I’ll have to give up my freedom.”
“I’m never going to find anyone better, so I’m stuck.”
Working with a therapist can help you uncover connections to past situations that keep you stuck, that you haven’t previously been able to identify.
The Couple Consultancy offers online relationship counselling for couples and individuals with a qualified, specialist relationship therapist. Our approach is not to judge. We provide an open-minded and confidential service for you to say what’s on your mind.
We'll work with you to discover a better way of understanding yourself and your relationship to help you create the relationship you want.
Often, the way we think about ourselves has a tremendous impact on the quality of our relationships. So by understanding where these beliefs come from and why we hold onto them, we can start to question their validity and begin to release the grip they have on your life.
Click here to complete our enquiry form to be contacted by a therapist. We will endeavour to be in touch within 48 hours of receiving your enquiry.
We will organise a time for you to have a brief conversation with a therapist to get a sense of what’s going on for you at the moment.
If we agree you would benefit from ongoing therapy, we will work together to address the issues preventing you from having lasting relationships.
Naomi Segal, founder of The Couple Consultancy, trained in London, England with some of the leading experts in couple relationships. From this, she has developed a way of working with couples that moves them from gridlock to growth.
Naomi is a registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) – the UK’s largest professional association for members of the counselling professions.
She is included on the BACP Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists, which is accredited by the Department of Health and approved by the Professional Standards Authority for Health and Social Care.